You remember fourth grade kickball right?! You wanted to play but you also wanted to be picked first, or at least be among the first picked. You definitly did not want to be the last one picked becuase at that point the captain did not pick you, he was stuck with you. It was not about being picked last it was about being wanted least. Speaking of being picked I had jury duty recently.
As I walked to the main entrance of the John Joseph Moakley Courthouse in South Boston I noticed a few news cameras set up outside waiting for some news worthy people to walk in or out. No one moved when I walked by. I spent some of the day in a large room in the courthouse waiting to see if we would be need to serve our fellow citizens as a juror. I won't go into the details of the of the cases that were seating juries, but sufice to say at least one carried national attention.
The jury room is a bit different from the fourth grade kickball court. Not only do you want to be picked last but you would be happy to not be picked at all. Now, I did talk with a few people who actually wanted to sit on the jury just to see what it was like but for the most part you could tell by the expression on the peoples faces that being on a jury was the last thing they wanted to do.
I think playing kickball was about being wanted - being seen as valuable. Jury duty is about just that, duty - something you have to do not something you get to do. People want to be seen as valuable and the way you do that is by asking them to help the team. Asking people to give of themselves and recieve nothing in return (other than the satisfaction of serving their country and their fellow citizens in serving justice) seems like it is asking a lot from people in our individualistic, and task driven culture. Serving in this way inhibits us from accomplishing the tasks we would rather be doing.
I have to admit I am one who is too busy, my excuse is family and full time grad school, professors who won't hold off lectures just for me. I remember enjoying being picked in the first couple of rounds for kickball but I was relieved when I was told I could not serve on this session's jury.
We want to be selected becuase someone sees value in us, not becuase everyone elses excuse was better.
What does it take to be selected for who we are and not for the service we could potentially provide?
Just a Meandering Thought...
